So, I’m in a bit of a mess—a classic cliche affair, but it feels very real. I’ve got intense feelings for someone I never thought I’d see that way. We’ve been friends and bandmates for years, and then, out of nowhere, he admitted he had feelings for me. I brushed it off at first, but slowly, we started hanging out more, and eventually, we ended up together. The catch? We’re both married.

It’s been a year now, and things are great between us. Our marriages are both pretty disconnected—like, I've already told my husband it’s over, we just still share a house. On his side, though, his wife has no idea. He says he wants to be with me, but needs time to figure out the logistics because they run a business together. So, I’m waiting... but sometimes I wonder if I’m being naive.

Am I still the "other woman" even though I’m also still married? Should I sort out my stuff completely before asking him to do the same? This whole situation just feels like such a cliche, and I’m not sure if I’m being selfish or realistic here.