Hey everyone, I could really use some advice.

I met this guy from my university back in October. We clicked right away, spent a lot of time together, and I thought things were going well. We even had a really intimate moment, and he told me he liked me and knew things were moving fast. But right after that, he started pulling away—barely texting, not making plans, even ignoring me on campus. It hurt, especially because it felt like he lost interest right after we got close.

Since then, we’ve had a few run-ins. He’s been friendly when we see each other, and recently he even apologized, saying he tends to ghost people when he starts catching real feelings. I accepted his apology, and we’ve kept in touch on Snapchat, but nothing really meaningful. Sometimes he’ll snap me 15 times a day without saying anything, and it’s just confusing and frustrating.

I’ve tried to move on, but I can’t seem to get over him. My 20th birthday is on Friday, and I’m pretty sure he’ll text me. I’m considering telling him that I miss talking to him and would like to really clear the air, but I don’t know if that’s a good idea or if I should just let it go.

Part of me thinks life is too short to hold back, but I’m also scared of getting hurt again. Should I be honest about how I feel, or is it time to close this chapter for good? Any advice would be appreciated.